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A discourse, by the Rev. A. W. Kendall, will be delivered, at the First Baptist Church, immediately before the functal.
St., Dec, 13, 18, MY DEAR BERTHA:
My recent great bereavement must plead my excuse for not attending the wedding of your dear daughter Aggie. I would not cloud the festal scene by my heavy weeds of mourning, and I could not lay them aside, even for an hour, while the wound in my heart is so fresh with grief.
Deeply regretting that I cannot attend, I can only wish Aggie, in her new relations, the joyous life of happiness she so richly deserves.
Your Sincere Friend,
Pillsburgh, Nou. 7, 1874.
The above cards may be displayed in this manner, but for actual use should be about four times larger,
Moiss Edith W Triggs.
Or the name may be without the Miss, thus :
OUR kinds of cards are in
card is used principally by the lady in her calls among acquaintances in the city. The address card is also frequently used for the same purpose, and is useful to present when it may be desired to open future correspondence. The business card is valuable for advertising and as being introductory to business acquaintance. In the autograph card, Chas. H. Briggs will write his name as follows:
Chas. 86. Briggo.
Or it may read thus:
His wife will write her name:
Mor. Chas. A. Briggs.
Mrs. Chas. 8. Eriggs.
Autograph cards should be used only among those acquaintances to whom the residence is
well known. Business cards should contain His daughters will add Miss to their names, upon their face the name, business, address and thus:
references, if references are used. NOTE.-A former rule of etiquette, not now so much observed, was for the eldest daughter, only, to prefix "Miss" to her name.
SHE individual is frequently called | Hehe body is governed by others.
E who labors with the mind governs others; he who labors with upon for his or her autograph. In complying, it is customary to
HERE is pleasure in the pathless woods, couple with the same a senti
There is rapture on the lonely shore,
There is society, where none intrudes,
By the deep Sea, and music in its roar:
I love not Man the less, but Nature morc.
Hube Surpasses or subdues
mankind, more highly valued. If a brief selection
Must look down on the hate of those below. be made
, some of the following quotations LET us deal very gently withothering me to forcubate organizar may be appropriate :
tion, and been trained amid as unfavorable circumstances, we would
have done as badly ourselves. 30
NATURE! though blessed and bright are thy
Nor knew, till seated by thy side, own!
My heart in all, save hope, the same.
ARTH holds no other like to thee,
THE RULES OF CONDUCT THAT GOVERN GOOD SOCIETY.
o be loved is the instinctive desire of In reality it need not take much to
be honored, to be successful, is the uni- very few. To be fed and clothed, and versal ambition. The ever constant desire provided with comfortable shelter, are the of all is to be happy. This never varying prime necessities. Added to these are
instinct lies at the foundation of every ac- kindness and love from those with whom tion; it is the constantly propelling force in our we associate. Given all these, with a con
tented spirit, and, however lowly our posiTo be happy, we strive for the acquisition of tion, we may be very happy. wealth, for position and place, for social and po- There is one perpetual law, however, running litical distinction. And when all is obtained, the through all our intercourse with others, which is real enjoyment in its possession comes from the that we may rightly possess nothing without renthousand little courtesies that are exchanged be- dering therefor just compensation. This law is tween individuals — pleasant words and kindly recognized in the commercial world, and it should acts, which the poor may enjoy as well as the rich. I be strictly observed in the etiquette of social life. In short, in the many varied amenities of life, come in contact, should actuate our conduct. the fundamental rule of action should be the Still, with all this, there are thousands of people golden rule: “To do unto others as we would of the kindest intentions, with much breadth of that others should do unto us.”
intellect, who continually violate the common We are at ease, we are made peaceful, satis- usages of society, and who are liable to do the fied and happy, by words and acts of kindly feel- wrong thing at important times, and thus eming extended to us; and in like manner we may
barrass their warmest friends. Hence, the need strew the pathway of others with roses and sun
of a treatise on general conduct is evidently as shine, by courteous action, and kind, gentle and
much a necessity as is the text-book on grammar, loving conduct; to do which may cost us no
cost us no penmanship or mathematics. effort, but on the contrary may afford us real If the soldier is more efficient by drill, the pleasure.
teacher more competent by practice, the parliaIn a business, social and artistic view, it is of mentarian more influential by understanding the very great advantage to most people to be pos- code of parliamentary law, then equally is the sessed of ease and grace of manner. By the general member of society more successful by possession of confidence and self-command, a sin- an understanding of the laws of etiquette, which gle individual will oftentimes cause a large com
teach how to appear, and what to do and say in pany, that otherwise would be socially very inhar- the varied positions in which we may be placed. monious, to be satisfied, composed and perfectly In the study of etiquette, much may be learned at ease; and in a thousand ways such a person by observation, but much more is learned by will scatter happiness and blessings among those practice. We may listen to the finest oratory with whom he or she may come in contact. for a dozen years, and yet never be able to speak
in public ourselves; whereas, by practice in the Natural and Acquired Politeness.
art of declamation, with passable talent, we may To some, a pleasing manner comes very natu- become quite proficient in half that time. We rally. If born to the possession of an easy flow may thoroughly study the theory and art of lanof language, agreeableness of address, poetical guage for twenty years, and yet be very poor and imaginative power, and large knowledge of talkers. We may practice the art of conversahuman nature, the whole accompanied by judi- tion by familiar and continuous intercourse with cious training, good education and wide oppor- the cultured and refined, and become fluent and tunities, such persons will most surely, without easy in communicating thought in a few years. studied effort, be self-possessed and at ease in any
Such is the difference between theory and company, upon any occasion.
practice. Both are necessary -- the former in On the contrary, if the natural advantages pointing the way; the latter by making use of have been few, and the opportunities for acquir- theory in practical application. Thus we may ing polished deportment limited, then we may acquire ease and grace of manner: First, by unvery appropriately make a study of the subject derstanding the regulations which govern social of how to please; and hence the necessity for etiquette; and secondly, by a free intermingling special instruction on the subject of Etiquette.
in society, putting into continual practice the theIt is of the utmost importance, however, that ories which we understand. To avail ourselves, there be no labored effort to behave by rule, and however, to the fullest extent of society advanthat the forms of etiquette be not carried too far. | tages, we must have acquaintance; and hence, we The law of common sense should rest at the basis introduce the rules of etiquette by a chapter on of our intercourse with society, and a kindly de- the forms of presentation — the art of getting sire to make happy everybody with whom we acquainted.